Dating a lady older than me
Don’t start changing things about yourself to mold into wifey-material, just because he knows he wants to settle down soon.
It’s okay to take interest in things he has a passion for, but don’t start doing things you know you can’t stand to make a good impression. All that *I know you can read my mind so you should know I’m hella pissed* way of doing things could get you ignored by an older man real quick. So if you’re upset about something substantial, don’t be afraid to calm yourself down, open your mouth and let it be known that you’ve been hurt by his actions.
I’m currently in a relationship with a fella the age of my older sister.
It has its perks and it has its bummer moments, but I think dating up in age is something that women should do at least once in life, even if it doesn’t turn into something serious.
Instead of cussing them good, just say, “No comment.” Don’t come in thinking you’ve found a sugar daddy, or that because he’s older he will have his life together and be wise. He might be in a world of debt and have a sideways way of thinking as opposed to an IRA account and a wealth of wisdom from past experiences.
Sometimes you just have to accept that you might be messing with a party pooper, and from there you will have to determine if his lack of spontaneity is enough to make you leave because you feel you’re being held back.Try a new type of food (and pitch in to pay from time to time), or if you must stay cooped up in the house, pull out the Dominoes.You don’t have to hit up a nightclub every weekend, but you definitely don’t want to spend too many weekends being the coupled up couch potatoes.He’s busy studying for a major exam that will allow him to work for whomever he wants and to make the kind of moves and money I probably won’t ever see (hey, columnists weren’t meant to be millionaires).With all that drive comes a lot of time we don’t get to share together.